Breakups suck. No matter if you broke up with them or they broke up with you, it sucks, and it’s probably going to suck for a while, but this doesn’t mean you have to be completely miserable that entire time. Drawing from a very, very recent, personal experience of mine, I decided it would be a good idea to compile a short list of how to deal with a breakup.
1. Realize you will be okay and everything happens for a reason
It might not seem like it right now, but you’re going to be okay… eventually. You’ve been single before, and you can learn to be happily single again. Also, keep in mind that for one reason or another, there’s probably a really good reason you broke up. Everything really does happen for a reason, and even if you’re absolutely positive you should be with that person, sometimes a break up is necessary for the other person to realize that. Have confidence in the fact that if it was really “meant to be” then eventually it will be, but also accept the real possibility that that’s just not the case.
2. Give it time
Regardless of how long the relationship was, if it was a real relationship, you’re not going to be okay immediately after the break up. I’ve realized the only thing that can heal a broken heart is time, and unfortunately, during that healing period, it’s best to not have contact with your ex. If you do have contact, it will be much harder to move on, and the transition from dating to friendship (if you want to remain friends) will be too messy. Just take time to be on your own, and leading on to my final point…
3. Focus on yourself
Surprisingly enough, this last piece of advice came from my ex’s mom, and she is absolutely right. This is the first time you haven’t been “associated” with someone for a while. Take this time to focus on yourself and be a little selfish honestly – you deserve it. Chances are you spent a lot of time ensuring that your boyfriend/girlfriend was happy, and I bet often times your own happiness got compromised in the process. Focus on the things that make you happy, and never forget to love yourself first. When you do this, everything else will fall into place.
Like I said, breakups suck, but if you follow these three guidelines, maybe it will suck a little less…