I’ve been working as a receptionist at a nursing home for a year now, and it has completely opened up my eyes and my view of the elderly. There seems to have always been a stigma about elderly people being rude, nasty, smelly, etc. While this is occasionally true, more often than not, it’s not the case at all. In the past year, almost every elderly person I’ve connected with has been such a blessing to get to know and nothing but a joy to be around. Here are my top eight reasons why elderly people are the best people.
- They have the best manners – please and thank you are the most frequently used words by this generation
- They’re always complimenting you – even over the small stuff aaand the weird stuff “you have the cutest ears!” “thank you?”
- They tell it like it is without hesitation – having a bad hair day? they’ll make sure you know about it
- They have the best stories – chances are they have experienced a lot more than you
- They appreciate the small stuff – Sunday is the best day of the week for them because of church and the Sunday newspaper
- They aren’t addicted to social networks – “snapface?” “tweetbook?”
- They stay positive even when illnesses might bring them down – strongest people ever
- They love unconditionally* – husbands/wives come in to visit their spouse three times a day, every. single. day.
I love the elderly, and I hope that I might get to work with them in whatever career path I decide to take. Even when I’m not having a good day, they can cheer me up instantly and make me realize that maybe whatever is going on isn’t so terrible.
*More on their unconditional love… below is an excerpt I pulled from a blog post I made back in November 2013 on my old blog.
If this doesn’t make you smile, I don’t know what will…
I recently came across an article on NBC News about America’s longest-married couple. Their 81st wedding anniversary is coming up. EIGHTY FIRST ANNIVERSARY. Unfortunately, that’s longer than some of us will live. However, John, 102, and his wife Ann, 98, have well surpassed the life expectancy for both men and women, and they have lived almost their entire lives together. So what’s their story exactly? Ann was actually set to marry a much older man whom her father had chosen, but to her father’s suprise, she took off with John, and they eloped. 81 years later, here they are, still unconditionally in love with one another. It’s amazing to think of everything this couple has witnessed and been through. In an interview with NBC, John said, “We have watched the world change together.” In response to how they’ve managed to stay together so long? Listen up men! He says, “The key is to always agree with your wife.” Wow. That’s the best relationship advice I’ve heard in a long time. I think the best part of this love story is that they both appear to have many years ahead of them.
Now tell me this isn’t the cutest couple you’ve ever seen?!
Ugh. So precious right?? I swear, I don’t care how in love I am with someone… 81 years is a LONG time. I really do wish them the best and many more anniversaries to come!
People have been categorized as either an “introvert” or “extrovert” for a very, very long time, and while there are several other factors that contribute to someones personality, this distinction is a good place to start. For a long time, I had always distinguished myself as an extrovert, and maybe for a long time, I was, but as time went on I’ve discovered that I’m really quite the opposite. I guess I had always pictured introverts as people who didn’t have any friends and sat at home all day. This is seriously not the case. That’s just the typical “stereotype” of an introvert. I’ve discovered that being an introvert is perfectly normal, and it certainly does not mean that you hate people. It’s just that some things are uncomfortable or tiring for me that aren’t necessarily that way for other people. Allow me to simplify what I mean. Here is a list of what being an introvert means to me:
- I don’t have a ton of friends, but the ones I have are incredibly close and important to me
- It’s easiest to express myself through non-verbal communication
- Talking on the phone is somehow easier than talking face to face
- If I don’t know you, and you don’t start a conversation with me, we won’t be talking
- When I have to make an announcement over the intercom at work, I die a little inside
- I’d almost always take a “chill” night with a movie and a few friends over a party any day
- When I’m quiet, it doesn’t always mean I’m upset or something is bothering me, sometimes I’m just quiet
- My good friends probably think I’m super loud and crazy because they know me well enough
- I’m never bothered being by myself. Instead, I usually find it peaceful.
- I am the way I am, and I don’t feel pressured to act a different way for anybody
All of this being said, I know I’m not on the extreme spectrum of introverts. I certainly have qualities of an extrovert as well, I just fall mostly on the introverted side of things. My dad is definitely an introvert, and my mom is definitely an extrovert, so I’ve inherited a little bit of both. I’m happy accepting myself this way, and I wouldn’t change a thing.
I am who I am.
Unfortunately in today’s society, our idea of happiness can be skewed and lead us further away from finding it. I don’t want to have to rely on anything or anybody to be happy. If you can be happy all alone with virtually nothing, I think it’s at that point you’ve reached true happiness. Sure, sometimes people and things can lead you in the right direction, but it all comes down to you. You have to tell yourself you will choose to be happy. Then you start doing things that make YOU happy. No one else – you. You’ve got to be a little selfish honestly. Helping others can bring you happiness of course, but there’s nothing wrong with taking time to do the things that make you happy.
Everybody is different, and you’ve got to figure out the things that make you happy, but to help get the wheels turning, here are 5 things that genuinely make me happy.
- Listening to and discovering good. ass. music. Seriously, nothing is better than finding a great band and listening to their albums for hours. My most recent obsession? This Wild Life. Sooooo good, you have no idea. Go. Go listen to them. In fact, here’s one of my favorites. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5as2gVEGjI
- Reading. *cue the nerd jokes* But really, I love to read. Whether it’s a good book (currently reading The First Phone Call from Heaven) or other blog posts, I enjoy reading what other people have to write. Writing is my favorite form of art. Some people like paintings, film, music, and of course, I like all of those things, but I just have a special connection with text. Most likely because I find it easiest to express myself through my writing.
- Blogging. This obviously ties into number 2, but it’s different from reading what others write. Writing my own blog posts is seriously so freeing. I often find that my mind is just a jumble of thoughts, and I write in order to organize those thoughts. There are so many unpublished posts I have that I will most likely never publish, but it’s crucial that I write them. I’ve talked about this before, – I write for myself, no one else really – and I’m just comfortable sharing some of my writing with others. I like the feedback.
- Simply spending time with loved ones. Alright, I know I said I don’t want to rely on anyone else to find my own kind of happiness, but it’s undeniable that being around those people that I love will always make me happy. The key is, I can be doing literally anything with them, and I can be happy. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. Just making a raw, genuine connection with my favorite people makes me alllll kinds of happy.
- Ironing. Quirky, I know. But it’s so true. I love ironing clothes. I find it hilariously weird, but it calms me down. I think I might use it as a giant metaphor. As I iron out the wrinkles in the clothes, I feel like I’m ironing out any stress I might have that day. I really am too weird. Moving on…. lol
These are just a few of the things that really make me a happy person, and I’m still discovering new things that make me happy every day. It’s understandable that everyone has bad days, but everyone should also have a few “go-to pick-me-ups” to make those bad days not so bad. I encourage you to start thinking about the things that make you happy because “happiness is not something ready made; it comes from your own actions.” -Dalai Lama